Friday, August 24, 2007

3 1/2: Friend or Enemy

Happy Half Birthday, Kate! Today she is officially 3 1/2.

I happen to be reading a book right now called Your Three-Year-Old Friend or Enemy. While it is a bit dated (copyright 1985) and doesn't have any solutions, it does have great information about the behavior and development to expect. I feel so assured that a lot of what we are experiencing is normal. A couple excerpts that have stood out...

"Warm, friendly, appealing, affectionate and confiding, creative and delightful he can be at times. It may be hard for you to imagine that, only minutes before, you and he may have been locked in immortal combat about whether he would or would not eat his lunch."

"His arbitrary demands to have his own way about all routines may extend to mealtimes. He may not like the type or quantity of food served and may also object to the way it is served. For example, he wants his sandwich cut in two. But if you cut it vertically, it turns out that he wanted it cut horizontally. If you then cut is horizontally, that makes four pieces and he wanted only two pieces."

Was the author spying on our house today? Does it sound familiar to anyone else?

(The book also has a great list in the back of toys for 3 yr olds. I want to get the 2yr old and 4 yr old versions of this book)


Penny said...

Saaaaaaaaaaay - that does sound familiar! There is nothing worse than a small person whinging about his p-butter sarnie being cut up... "Put it back together!!!" is not helpful. I have found that telling him it gets joined up in his tummy sometimes works.

Happy 1/2 b-day Kate!

Steph (Sydney's Mom) said...

LOVE that book! I read it and re-read it often and was relieved...sort of. :)